Date Rape

Date Rape
Tamar's experience in 2 Samuel 13 is little different from that of many women today. Studies indicate the horrifying fact that as many as one out of every six women has been or will be raped. Date rape is the most common form of sexual abuse. One in eight female college students will experience rape or attempted rape, usually from a date or acquaintance. Even men are not immune: at least one out of every ten victims of sexual assault is male.

Most experts agree that these frightening numbers may reflect only a fraction of the reality. Only about 39 percent of sexual assaults are reported.

What should you do if you’ve been a victim of sexual abuse?

First, understand you are a victim of a crime. You did not 'ask for it.' Don't allow guilt to cause you to take responsibility for someone else's poor decision. If you said no, no means no.

Second, realize that you are not alone and without resources. Talking about what happened helps break the power the incident has over you; not talking about it will keep you a victim forever. If you need help or information on counseling centers, contact the sexual assault hotline (1-800-656-HOPE) of RAINN (the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network).

The best source of help is God himself. He alone is able to heal your damaged body, emotions, and spirit. Turn to God and let him make you whole again. He can do it.

If you are a guy who is trying to help a female friend or family member work through this shattering experience, try to avoid telling a rape victim she should 'just get over it' or 'get on with her life.' Every woman who has been sexually violated wants to do just that, but it is impossible to 'carry on' as though the rape never happened. Rape changes a woman's life. The inner anguish must be dealt with. Try to be patient, supportive, and loving.

If you have committed this sin, cry out to God for mercy and forgiveness, and seek counseling. God is waiting--and willing--to help you.